As a friend or a family member of the person experiencing the loss of a loved one, it is our moral responsibility to share in their grief. Words and actions of condolences may not be enough, but sending sympathy flowers to them can go a long way. As grieving is an individual experience, here are some valuable tips for sending flowers to help others get through what they’re going through:
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced the five stages of grief in 1969. Physically losing someone you love makes you go through denial, anger, bargaining, and even depression. Being at peace with what happened or acceptance, the fifth and last stage, can take some time and differs for every individual.
The Flowers
There are no rigid rules or standards regarding the colour and kind of flowers that you send to a grieving family. But, of course, baskets or arrangements of white and green coloured varieties are the most popular. Moreover, subdued bright and dark-coloured bouquets can also serve to remember and celebrate the departed’s life.
● Lilies
These traditional flowers are one of the most popular options to give to the bereaved family. Some religions believe that lilies symbolize that the soul of the family’s loved one has renewed innocence and is now at peace. In line with this, you are sending a message of hope that the household will soon be at peace with the loss and that they can eventually focus on a new outlook or beginning in life.
● Orchids
Majestic orchids are also best to be utilized as sympathy flowers as it conveys eternal love due to their inherent ability to remain in bloom and alive than other options.
It is ideal to choose either the Dendrobium, one of the largest genera of orchids, or the Phalaenopsis, also known as Moth Orchids, as they are the most appropriate for your purpose. In addition, their white- and pink-coloured varieties are the most popular ones given for condolences.
● Roses
This universally most popular flower among generations is also naturally given for remembering a loved one. However, most people interpret their vast array of colours as having a particular meaning or message that they want to portray.
White roses often convey innocence and youthfulness and are given sympathy gifts to express reverence and remembrance. In addition, red roses are a symbol of deep love. And you usually give them to express respect and appreciation to someone you look up to and love dearly.
● Gladioli
A Gladiolus or Sword Lily is widely known for its bright petals under a tall and long stem. The flower serves as a reminder of the departed’s strength and moral integrity. Yet, at the same time, it also conveys a sincere message and a wish to stay strong despite the family’s difficult loss.
The Card
It is not required to send a note or card with your flowers, but it is indeed a nice touch or addition. Most often than not, including your name or last name with the usual one-line funeral card greetings would suffice.
Moreover, adding a few short lines of your own will show your support and that you share their sorrow. Just be sure not to offer false comfort that would make them feel worse. Instead, you can write that you are ready to provide the help that may make accepting loss easier.
